Officers body slam and cuff the wrong man, breaking his wrist

The shootings are more dramatic, so they get a lot more attention, and that’s understandable. But there are a lot more incidents like this one that just don’t get caught on camera, or the victim doesn’t want to make an enemy of the local police, or is too traumatized to follow through.

Police officers assaulted this man, body slammed him, broke his wrist, because they had a warrent for a *different guy.* That guy? He was already arrested and in custody. They talked to the arresting officer *BEFORE* they mistreated this innocent man, but because they misunderstood what she told them, this poor guy was in fear for his life and suffered physical and emotional harm.

THEY HAD HIS I.D. All they had to do was compare it to the warrent BEFORE stalking up behind him and slamming him to the ground.  Article and video here.  Note that indeed the stalker cop already has the guy in a bear hug from behind, pinning his arms back *before* he tells him to put his hands behind him.
This is hard to watch – they broke this man’s wrist when they body slammed to the ground and cuffed him, and the pain and terror in his voice is palpable. I got knots in my stomach- and I don’t know this guy, I’m remived by thousands of miles, a couple of months, and I’m seeing/hearing it through social media. This was his life. IMagine how friendless, alone, and totally at risk he felt at the time. Imagine if he was your cousin, your brother?

And then think about why we have to imagine that, when he is a fellow member of the human race, a fellow citizen of this republic who should not have been subject to this treatment by civil servants whose job is to protect and serve. Something has to be done, something related to how we screen officers, and how we train them, so that they have more basic respect for other humans, for their rights, and a lot more comon sense than to ambush, assault, and cuff and body slam a man before they have even compared his I.D. (which he gave to the officer quickly as soon as he was asked).
For all intents and purposes, these men assaulted him without compunction. I don’t hear the kinds of apologies and contrition one ought to be hearing. The total lack of self-awareness is absolutely astounding.  They seem surprised that he’s suing when they offered to call hiim an ambulance and asked if he was okay.  Would you hang around with your rapist if he was so kind as to call an amublance for you afterward?    Of course he didn’t want anything from them but distance- as much distance as he could put between himself and his abusers.  They hurt him, bullied him, assaulted him, traumatized him, and they did it without any sign of contrition, and no valid reason in the first place.  He cannot trust them. He has no way of knowing what they will take in their heads to do to him next, since there was no logic or reason to what they already did. They don’t seem to get this at all.

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Think on these things

Conversation should be on things, rather than persons- Isaac Watts

People ask how I am doing, and I tell them fine and this is mostly true at the time I say it is.  I live in the moment. I do not really experience the passing of time the way others seem to. I have alluded to this before, and yes, it’s rather strange, and I don’t know what to make of it. It has great advantages and great disadvantages as well, and at 58 I really don’t see how I am to develop some sense of time and its passing out of the void in my consciousnes that others seem to have.

So I am fine.  And then occasionally,seemingly out of nowhere, I am howling in the wilderness of my empty home, or in my van. I have had to pull over because I cannot see for the tears.  Do I miss my husband?  How can you miss an illusion, a mannikin, a human being who never actually existed except in your own imagination? How can you miss gas-lighting, subtle but constant guilt trips (that you thought were the voice of your conscience, but were in fact that voice of an excellent manipulator with no conscience?).  How can you miss forcing yourself to fit into molds that were never yours, listening to the subtle but constant undermining disguised as love and support? Every single personality test we ever took, he would look at me over my results and say, “Aw, that’s okay.  I love you anyway.”  Who does that?

No, I don’t miss him.  I am clearly still angry at all the betrayals and gas-lighting, the lies, the subtle and sucessful undermining me in most relationships, the mask.  Partly this is because they are still coming to the surface, bubbling to the top over time, like the tiny, rotting, dead things they are.

So why the tears? This is a question I’ve been asking myself, and by that question what I mean is merely, what triggers them, not ‘what are you crying about’? I feel like they come from out of nowhere, but maybe they don’t.  Maybe I don’t notice some commonality in the time period just before they ambush me.

And in thinking about that and trying to be more aware of what I’m doing and whe and where before ambushed by those howling, raw, ugly cries, I think they come when I am busy doing some mindless task- scrubbing a sink, peeling vegetables,  staring off into space blankly- and one of those memories comes floating  up and out and I realize anew yet another area or occasion where he was gaslighting, manipulative, dishonest, selfish, yet somehow it was on me.

I decided to try something simple- read more books.  Think more about the plots and characters in those stories as though they are real people I know, and when my mind is wandering during those tasks when I have something somewhat mechanical to do, direct my mind to stories I’ve read and the plots and characters therin.  If I could enter their stories and be part of their lives, what would I do? If we had tea together, what would we discuss?  I can expand that to the authors- how do they tell the best parts of their stories? How do they make that character come alive?  What is most memorable about that character description, that scene?

It’s a distraction, but that’s what I need.


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Carter G. Woodson, Black Historian Extraordinaire

“History shows that it does not matter who is in power or what revolutionary forces take over the government, those who have not learned to do for themselves and have to depend solely on others never obtain any more rights or privileges in the end than they had in the beginning.”

“Philosophers have long conceded, however, that every man has two educators: ‘that which is given to him, and the other that which he gives himself. Of the two kinds the latter is by far the more desirable. Indeed all that is most worthy in man he must work out and conquer for himself. It is that which constitutes our real and best nourishment. What we are merely taught seldom nourishes the mind like that which we teach ourselves.”


“It may be well to repeat here the saying that old men talk of what they have done, young men of what they are doing, and fools of what they expect to do.”

“Real education means to inspire people to live more abundantly, to learn to begin with life as they find it and make it better,”

Dr. Carter Godwin Woodson (1875-1950), the author of more than 16 books and the founder and editor of the Journal of Negro History and the Negro History Bulletin, was the founder of the Association for the Study of Negro Life and History.

Quotes taken from his book The Mis-Education of the Negro

For children about six to 10 (or older, I thoroughly enjoyed it), you simply must read the McKissack’s engaging biography, Carter G. Woodson, The Father of Black History



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The NASCAR Noose That Wasn’t

The story as I understand it: Bubba Wallace is a race car driver, the only black NASCAR racer.  He recently, like in the last week or two, got the Confederate flag banned from NASCAR, and, you know, it’s 2020, BLM, riots, protests, George Floyd, Breonna Taylor (and others), and tensions are HIGH.

The team, along with multiple other teams, moved to a new track for an upcoming race, and were randomly assigned their garages.  Somebody, presumably a member of the team (we know it wasn’t Mr. Bubba) saw what he (or she?) believed to be a noose and reported it as such to NASCAR and the FBI was called in and there was a huge fuss, a parade in support of Wallace, an FBI investigation and an interview or two (namely, one on The View, where Wallace said anybody doubting the story was simple-minded.  Garages were randomly assigned and nobody would have known which of them would be Wallace’s when he arrived this month. Wallace did not see it at all, or, if he did, it wasn’t until after the FBI wrapped it all up.

A member of a team who had previously raced on that track and used that garage heard about the fuss, and recalled that the rope used for a garage door pull was tied in such a way it might look like a noose to somebody else.  That person reported it either directly to the FBI or through channels.  The FBI looked into it, found a photograph showing that the ‘noose’ had been a garage door pull in that garage at least since last fall (October, 2019), so could not be a noose targeted at Bubba, and there’s no reason to suppose it was intended to be anything other than a door pull so they closed the case.  NASCAR is still investigating, they say, according to at least one article I read.

Throughout, the media acted like a shrill pack of hyenas, pouring gas on flames and stoking them for clicks and clout.

Speculation: Presumably, once the employee who believed he saw a noose reported it, the site was closed as a crime scene so the FBI could investigate.  That means most of the crew and staff wouldn’t have been in the garage at all, and anybody who had been there before hand wouldn’t necessarily have thought of the garage pull as a noose.
Presumably, though, NASCAR garages are also protected by loads of advanced security, both human and electronic, so nobody could have gotten in there and hung up a noose who didn’t actually work for Bubba or NASCAR, and that’s why most people who were skeptical thought that was ridiculous. But it’s not crazy if Bubba and his crew were a bit jumpy about threats, because they’ve probably been receiving some hate mail.

And I think that for perfectly understandable reasons, if you are predisposed to see looped ropes as nooses, you will.  And, for perfectly understandable reasons, black people are probably more sensitized to seeing looped ropes as nooses.  I am not saying that is being overly sensitive or ridiculous.  I am making a speculative guess, not an accusation.  I think it’s quite reasonable, especially given the timing (inflamed tensions, probably Wallace has received some ugly messages due to the Confederate Flag issue alone), that somebody might have seen that looped rope as a noose and a threat.  Probably most NASCAR garages have a garage pull with  the typical plastic tag attached to the end of the rope.  But those break, and probably when this one did, somebody tied a loop to the end of the rope because that works better for a handpull and lasts longer than a plastic or metal tag (one breaks, the other breaks/frays the rope).

For equally understandable reasons, if you’ve been using the rope as a doorpull, that’s what you see.  And if you’re white and not from the south (or aybe even if you’re the right age and from the south), lynching is not something that comes to mind as readily as it does to people with relatives who have been victimized by it.  A looped rope is a looped rope.  A noose has a larger hole, or loope, and hangs higher from the ground, to you.

Pedantic details: There is a difference between a noose and a loop when it comes to *using* the rope- a loop is tied with a bowline knot (I had to look this up), so it stays stable, and neither pulls tighter or loosens up when pressure is put on the loop.  You don’t want a rope doorpull with a loop at the end that will cinch tightly around your hand when you use it to pull on the rope.  I have one of these hanging from a tree in my yard.  The kids and now grandkids have used it to swing on- they put one foot through and stand up, holding the rope, and swing.  I think originally it was used to tie something else on to the tree- a bucket, maybe, a target for shooting bows at maybe, and whatever it was fell off and the rope was too tight to undue by then, so now it’s a swing.    Wait, I think I have two- the other is too high to swing on, but it also used to hold something else- I think a bucket used for target shooting, and the bucket got shot to pieces but the rope remains because it’s too high to get down anymore.  Ilt’s a larger loop at the end, but still not large enough to be, well, the other thing, and it’s a loop, not a noose.

A noose is tied with a different kind of knot, because it’s *supposed* to be easy to loosen a bit when you put it over your (and this is gruesome) target, whether that’s a calf, a mustang, (and this most gruesome of all) a man’s head, and then tighten up when you put weight and pressure on the looped end.  If it doesn’t tighten up easily, it’s not any use as a noose.  If it tightens easily, it’s not any use as a swing or a door pull or anything else that doesn’t require a noose.

Again, this is just pedantic and I don’t expect that either a person using it merely as a grim, hateful, but ultimately symbolic threat or the person feeling threatened knows or cares about the difference. The difference really only matters to those of us who love pedantic points, and to people who need to use the rope for a specific job and need it to function properly for their purpose.

So the FBI wrapped up the case, proving for a fact that Bubba was not the target of a racist threat (or any threat).  And then Bubba had to double down and insist even if he wasn’t threatened it was definitely a noose and he knows it was there with ill intent.  This is sad.  I dn’t know why- I dn’t know if he believes it truly, or if he’s too embarrassed to back down, or if he knows better but finds it useful for the publicity.
Not being a mind reader, I have no way of knowing if it’s any of these reasons or some other reason.

Lots of people hating on him for starting this mess, but he did not see it and did not report it, so that’s not fair.   Lots of other people hating on him and the whole staff, saying they ‘had to have known’, but, in fact, they didn’t have to have known.  The media could have keep their baying down while the investigation took place, or could have offered reasonable alternatives, or could have interviewed previous users of the garage and asked questions, but they prefer to make things worse.

The everything is racist crown react predictably, as do the nothing is racist anymore crowd, and there’s never any room for nuance and too much shouting for either side to listen to and understand each other, not that they want to, and for this and too many other reasons to count, 2020 is just going to be the new word for absolutely insanely ridiculously stupid from hereon out.

The prevalence of hate crime hoaxes




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White Fragility. BLM and their Anti-Family Beliefs.

“We disrupt the Western-prescribed nuclear family structure requirement by supporting each other as extended families and “villages” that collectively care for one another, especially our children, to the degree that mothers, parents, and children are comfortable…”
“We foster a queer‐affirming network. When we gather, we do so with the intention of freeing ourselves from the tight grip of heteronormative thinking…”
“We are trained Marxists.”
—Patrisse Cullors, Co-Founder, Black Lives Matter
It does not require courage to go with your friends or against your enemies… true moral courage is shown when we say no to our friends. Dr. Kelly Miller, 1908 essay on Frederick Douglass

On the book White Fragility:

Anytime somebody presents a theory which filters everything as proof of the underlying claim, no matter what, then you’re seeing a grift.
If everything proves an idea is true, and nothing can prove it false, you don’t have an intellectual proposition, you don’t have science.
You have a cult mindset. Lots of good books out there. Lots of propaganda, too.
This one is in the propaganda category.
“In other words, if DiAngelo accuses you of racism or fragility and you disagree with her in any way-through argument, silence, or withdrawal-your reaction is considered proof of your fragility. DiAngelo leaves white readers with only two options. Either acknowledge your fragility, which proves DiAngelo’s theory, or deny your fragility, which according to DiAngelo, also proves her theory. This is a logical fallacy known as a Kafkatrap. If our legal system worked this way, no person accused of a crime would ever be acquitted because their denial would prove their guilt.”
This is long and scholarly, but offers an alternative explanation with more nuance and better analysis than DiAngelo:
And, btw and appropos of all the nonsensical stuff- the noose allegedly left in black race car driver  Bubba Wallace’s garage (where he parks his multimillion dollar NASCAR race car, so you know he has massive security and cameras)- is simply a garage door pull that has been there since at least 2019.  I am not making this up.  Of course, if you have not let your wokeness smother your common sense, you knew that something like this was going to turn out to be the case.
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