Culturally Bullied into Silence

This story is worth reading.   Note that I disagree with her on gender and transgender issues that what I mostly would say to her is, “Good grief, what did you expect?  Your side brought this down on all of us, and it’s not going to get better until you wake up and realize cultural bullying, not tolerance, not acceptance, not consideration, was *always* the end game.”

Transgender people are not helped by any of this. It is a tragic mental illness, not something to cherish, embrace, and tolerate any more than we cherish suicidal tendencies (which, by the way, afflict those who believe themselves to be transgendered in staggering rates).  You want to help, really help?   The reaction of the women in this bathroom is not helping.


Personally, I doubt that man was just innocently waiting for anybody.  It sounds more likely that he was enjoying staring women down, intimidating them into silence, making them afraid.  Thanks, leftists.

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Organizing in our Philippine house


In this house we have two closets. They have plenty of shelves, but the section to hang clothes is very small, compared to American standards. Also, the Boy is using one of the closets, leaving three of us to divvy up the single closet remaining.  We do not have any dressers because we didn’t want to spend money on them, and there are shelves in the closet.

I packed over the door hangers, like this one and this one. I prefer metal because in a pinch, if it doesn’t fit over the door perfectly you can use pliers to adjust a bit. I try and put the Cherub’s outfits all together (shirt, jumper or shorts, leggings, undershirt if required) on one hanger, and it goes on a hanger over her door. My clothes mostly go over the multihanger hanging on our bedroom door.

To keep things organized on the shelves in the closet, I just use the boxes from the things we bought when we moved in, plus a couple of collapsible canvas storage cubes I slipped into my suitcases at the last minute, and I am very thankful I did.  For a while I used one of our suitcases, but that was for my husband’s clothes (he has the side of the closet where it fits, and he didn’t like it.


There is not a towel rack in the bathroom, and towels wouldn’t dry there well if there was, because a bathroom in all the parts of Asia I know of is essentially a wetroom, plus it’s so humid that the bathroom feels like a sauna most of the day. We have two solutions for this. We have an acrylic over the door hanger sort of like this one, and it goes over one of the cupboard doors in our room and I hang my towel on it- the hanger, made for purses, is wider so the towels have time to dry.
My husband bought a tension curtain rod, and put it up in the bathroom from wall to wall, above the door and as far from the shower as possible.  He hangs his towels up there. I find it difficult to get mine over the rod in a way that still allows me to shut the bathroom door.  His towel is high enough that it usually does dry by evening.

In the kitchen to save space we have a tall set of shelves with various shallow trays, and then a variety of containers. Again, I primarily used the boxes that things we needed for the house came in (the rice cooker box, the box for the iron, the box for the tea kettle….). But to make it look more uniform and satisfactory to me, I bought some pretty wrapping paper, tape, and glue and now my boxes and canisters match each other. Wrapping paper is shockingly cheap here- I think I paid less than a dollar for all the paper I needed to wrap the boxes and containers.  I don’t have an oven.  I have a very small toaster oven I keep out on the counter next to the rice cooker. My stove is a two burner gas cooktop on a small table between the counter and the fridge.  I also have a electric kettle for two reasons.  One is that electric is cooler than the gas- it heats up faster without heating the kitchen area the same way the gas flame does on my cooktop.  The other is so I can have hot water for dish washing or rinsing quickly when I want it.


We have one blanket for the Cherub, and the Boy brought his own. I did not bring one for us because I thought we’d be too hot. The HM doesn’t want a blanket. He does not even always want a sheet, but I sometimes do get too cool at night- I get downright cold if he turns on the aircon, but sometimes I just get too cool from the fan and open windows. Instead of a blanket, I use an extra sheet and a beach towel and this has been quite adequate except the one night I had fever and chills all night and couldn’t get warm at all.  For storing extra sheets (we don’t have that many), the Cherub’s bed has drawers underneath it, and I have a set of shelves in the hall where odds and ends and extra towels go.

For a laptop tray, I use a battered old metal pan, the kind that went in somebody’s oven, a shallow tray for catching spills. It’s got about an inch lip all the way around it. I balance it on a throw pillow on my lap.

Instead of a silverware tray, because I do not have enough drawers for that, I keep all our silverware in a jar at the back of a shelf over the kitchen counter. My knives and vegetable peelers also go in a jar on a shelf.

We’re still without curtains in all the rooms but ours- I brought those curtains with us because they were adjustable length and I found them on major mark-down. Amazon has something similar, but except for not being insulated, I like mine far better. They don’t tie up, they have a pleated/fold thing with eyelets and you bring the ties through and it looks better, and you don’t keep adjusting up or down, because they are curtains, not shades. The rod we have in our room is one I bought used from a missionary who moved. The rings I brought from home, again, marked down on clearance. I will never use another kind of curtain ring, though- I love the ones with clips. I brought extras, so if we can pick up some other curtain rods and curtains cheaply, I’ll be adding curtains to the living room/dining room area. The windows are frosted, so privacy isn’t really an issue, but the windows are louvered slats that don’t seal- there is an actual gap at the top of most of them at least 1/8 of an inch, which means the air con is not as efficient as it could be/should be.

Or, if I can come up with enough cardboard pieces big enough, I could cover cardboard with my wrapping paper and set those in the windows when we want to run the air con.

We packed light and we don’t have a lot of things with us. I am proving to myself daily what I already knew – half the battle in keeping a tidy house is reducing the clutter and excess stuff. Part of the battle is also the right amount of space and storage, but mainly, I can just about manage to keep up with the housework when all my worldly goods would fit in 3 or 4 household trunks.   It’s pathetic, really.

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Syrian MIssile Strikes and other news

The Case Against Immigration: It’s an emotional issue and people get their hackles up and make arguments based on idealism, how they wish things were without any regard, knowledge, or interest in how they *actually* are.  They talk about how we are a nation of immigrants without any idea of the historical facts behind that and how it all really happened.  You have to register to read the whole thing (registration is free, I recommend a fake email, one set up for stuff like this), but it’s worth reading and thinking about.

Our president has launched a missile strike on a Syrian Air Base.

Glenn Reynolds:

“On Facebook, a friend comments that half the point of this was doing it while the Chinese president was with him. And Richard Fernandez notes: “The bitter fruit of Obama’s war by executive order is now upon us. Whatever happened to Congress’ war powers?”

Neither Democrats nor Republicans would assert those powers under Obama. Who will do so now? But this does seem more like a continuation of Obama’s mideast policies than a reversal of them. Which, given how they turned out, isn’t promising.”

100 years ago Woodrow Wilson got us into The War to End All Wars.  How did that work out for all of us?


Arkansas is planning 7 executions in a 10 day span (they had wanted 8, but a judge required a stay for one of them) because:

“Arkansas is cramming so many executions into such a short time frame because its supply of one of the lethal injection drugs is about to expire. Like many states, it’s struggling to find new supplies because manufacturers have been pressured into not selling them to prisons for executions.”

How the sexual revolution is working out for us:

“….More than 42 percent of Americans between the ages of 18 and 59 are infected with genital human papillomavirus, according to the first survey to look at the prevalence of the virus in the adult population….

“…HPV is a ubiquitous virus, the most common sexually transmitted infection in the United States. About 40 strains of the virus are sexually transmitted, and virtually all sexually active individuals are exposed to it by their early 20s.”

Senate goes nuclear on Democrat blockade of Trump’s Supreme Court nominee Gorsuch.  Others call this the Reid option.   Here’s a neutral description of the historical background of the ‘nuclear option.’

How deep is the ocean?

They mentioned the Dumbo Octopus- here’s some video footage of this adorable little creature.

And here’s a lot more information about these fascinating creatures.


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Culture and Chaos, linking for thinking

There is no redemption from the original sin of being white. Not much for being male, either.

I happen to be reading (and misunderstanding my way through) Matthew ARnold’s Culture and Anarchy right now, so stumbling over this article on culture and cultural critics was serendipitous.
“Matthew Arnold, a poet-essayist like Dr Johnson, was perhaps the first modern cultural critic in English. In Culture and Anarchy he defined the key word as “being a pursuit of our total perfection by means of getting to know, on all the matters which most concern us, the best which has been thought and said in the world”; he felt the fragility of civilisation, and sweepingly labelled the British middle classes Philistines and the aristocrats Barbarians. In the corpus of Victorian poetry his  “Dover Beach” seems arrestingly modern. In fact the lines “And we are here as on a darkling plain . . . Where ignorant armies clash by night” could have been written yesterday. In this gloomy lyric, written about 60 years before the First World War, he was facing the religious, philosophical and cultural uncertainties of Europe.

Nonetheless, as a hard-working writer and inspector of schools, he embodied “pessimism of the intellect, optimism of the will”. He was remarkable for the extent of his reading across the cultures of Europe, the depth of his perceptions, his engagement with society, and the eloquence of his expression. He felt that the poet had a special insight into the heart of a civilisation. Do any contemporary poets feel the same? Or do we now turn for this to novelists? Is it possible that we are not sure where the heart of our civilisation is? It was he, incidentally, who inaugurated with the scientist T.H. Huxley the “two cultures” debate in its modern form.”

Elsewhere I have recently written (though perhaps in a post-dated post) on how culture even determines the things you notice. What I notice Arnold saying about culture most often, is that its purpose is “to diffuse sweetness and light, to make reason and the will of God prevail.”

Our culture has been harping on privilege lately to the point that it’s a tired, hackneyed, tattered slur that even some on the left are tired of;
In the privilege hierarchy, white privilege — the economic, political, cultural and safety benefits accruing to those displaying the simple trait of whiteness — is first among unequals, though privilege is also identified and decried based on gender, education, sexual orientation, class, wealth and able-bodiedness. “Check your privilege” and “Your privilege is showing” are by now nearly cliched attacks against those deemed insufficiently aware of accidental blessings. And those lowest on the privilege hierarchy are somehow more virtuous, thanks to what Bovy calls liberals’ “fetishization of powerlessness.”

The Academy’s Assault on Academic Diversity– read the comments on this one as well. Incidentally, The Bell Curve doesn’t say what he thinks it said.

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Pelley vs Cernovich

I liked this section of the CErnovich/60 minutes interview, too.

“Mike Cernovich: … But then when Hillary Clinton is having you, coughing fits, well it’s allergies. Hillary Clinton seizes up, oh, it’s pneumonia. Right? So that’s what I mean. We’re willing, the confirmation bias says that you’re willing to take the Hillary Clinton campaign on their word. But that kind of benefit of the doubt would not be given to say, Donald Trump. If Donald Trump had some kind of seizure, and he said oh, it’s pneumonia, people would say oh, that’s alternative fact. And people wouldn’t accept that as true.

Scott Pelley: But the point is sh- The point is you didn’t check this story out. You didn’t have –

Mike Cernovich: Sure I did.

Scott Pelley: Multiple sources. You just, you have some guy who says he’s a doctor say that Hillary Clinton has Parkinson’s disease, and you put it out there as if it was true.

Mike Cernovich: Oh, he’s really a doctor though. Dr. Ted Noel, you can confirm that for yourself.

Scott Pelley: The point is, you didn’t talk to anybody who ever examined Hillary Clinton.

Mike Cernovich: Have you?

Scott Pelley: No. No.

Mike Cernovich: Have you?

Scott Pelley: I- this story’s not about me.”

Do I think Mike pushed the limits by claiming Clinton has Parkinson’s as thought it was a fact?  Yes, I do. Shrug. He didn’t tell us he had inside information from an unnamed source, he made it clear this was the analysis of a doctor who had not seen her.  It is easy enough for readers to decide for themselves how much faith they want to put in it.

Pelley stated for a fact that the only thing wrong was that Clinton had pneumonia, and he never talked to anybody who had examined Hilary, either, and the only source that told him pneumonia is a campaign.  Campaigns are in the business of lying about their candidates, and we also know for a fact that this campaign had lied repeatedly about her health- including 3 major lies on the day that she collapsed.    And unlike Cernovich, he did not make it plain that he hadn’t talked to anybody who examined her.  Asking Mike if he’d ever spoken to anybody who had clearly is intended to leave viewers with the impression that Mike is inferior to Pelley in this, and it turns out he doesn’t follow his own journalism standards (if we can call them that) for Hillary.

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