If you know the acronymn, my apologies for being a bit crass. It’s a feature on Redit, appparently.
I only just heard of it. Somebody will post a real life story of some issue and ask if they are being the jerk or if the other party is (only instead of jerk, it’s a body part beginning with A), and then Reddit users may ask a few clarifying questions and then vote. The possible votes are, as I recall, yes, it’s you. No, it’s them, and nobody is the jerk in this story.

People are so weird. All of us.

A few years ago a much admired godly older woman at my church was gently but firmly critical of my tastes in reading- one, too much reading (who has time for that), and 2, too many mysteries and that’s so dark and not uplifting. She would tell me a story about a woman who was fearful all the time until they discovered she read mysteries and when she stopped reading them the anxieties all went away, concerned but pointed look. (as long time readers know, I have PTSD and there is a discomfort there with really grasping what this means. They aren’t really comfortable with mental health issues that actually influence how you live your life. It’s okay to say you have Depression if you have Overcome, that kind of thing).

I tried to give her suggestions a fair hearing, but my murder mysteries of choice are classic cozy types, Sayers, Marsh, McInnes, Wentworth, Allingham, so I just could not take it seriously.

Then I discovered that her favourite television shows featured vampires and werewolves and she preferred more suspense/violent movies over romances (as do I), and I had to laugh, a lot and at both of us. You see, my first reaction was a sort of smug sense of superiority because who has time for television shows and if you do, why that drek? This was before my K-Drama addiction had taken hold, you understand. Other shows she liked a lot featured a body count three or four times higher than my little cozy murder mysteries, just they were often supernatural in nature, done by monsters or aliens or super villains, but they didn’t fall under the murder mystery genre so she did not see them the same way at all. And, of course, neither did I when I first learned about her tastes in television. I never said anything to her, though, because there didn’t seem to be a point. I just laughed at both of us, privately, to myself.

On the inside, where it’s really smug.

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  1. Frances
    Posted February 13, 2020 at 4:08 pm | Permalink

    Tangential question: do you read primarily for the mystery or for the setting and characters?

    It’s almost always the latter for me – I often find I’ve lost track of the actual plot.

    • Headmistress
      Posted February 18, 2020 at 8:58 pm | Permalink

      Setting and characters. I like the puzzle, but I like characters more, so much more that once or twice I have totally forgotten there is a puzzle in my delight with the characters.

  2. Connie McEntire
    Posted February 13, 2020 at 11:34 pm | Permalink

    Love it! We are all a little weird. Who has time to read too many books? Is there any such thing?

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