The Aftermath of Abuse

There is an excellent read from one homeschooling mom to another here. This is an excerpt:

“I propose that anyone who is truly repentant and reformed of sexually abusing a child should have no problem being under accountability, limits, and supervision. They would acknowledge their own risk for relapse, and not put themselves in a position where they could be even falsely accused.

Just as wise leaders would never send a former alcoholic into bars to do ministry, former abusers should never be entrusted with children alone. (This applies to families, as well as ministries.)”

This Amazon interview with an author was interesting and a little surprising:

Q. What causes PTSD?

A. PTSD can be caused by natural disasters such as hurricanes, earthquakes, wild fires, tornadoes and floods or human-made events such as war, acts of terrorism, accidents and abuse of any kind.

Q. What’s the number one cause of PTSD?

A. We know that combat and exposure to war may cause PTSD for our active duty and military personnel, but in the civilian population, the number one cause of PTSD is automobile accidents. For women, the number one cause is sexual trauma.

Q. Do men and women suffer from PTSD equally?

A. At this point, it appears that women are more likely to suffer from PTSD than men. In a recent article published by the National Center for PTSD, women are also more likely to be neglected or abused in childhood, to experience domestic violence, or to have a loved one suddenly die…and are more than twice as likely to develop PTSD as men after a trauma.

From the interview with the authors of this book: The Time Cure: Overcoming PTSD with the New Psychology of Time Perspective Therapy

And this was informative:

“When people with PTSD think the world is dangerous and feel a profound sense of threat and danger, it’s not just “in their mind.” It’s the brain operating in survival mode, and the solution is to shift the brain back to learning mode.

Which is much easier said than done.

By one of the authors of the book Hijacked by Your Brain: How to Free Yourself When Stress Takes Over


Not everybody who endures trauma will end up with PTSD or other issues, so don’t assume the ‘worst’ .  Conversely, sometimes people who seem to have come through unscathed will be thrown off kilter later for reasons neither you nor they may understand.

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  1. jules
    Posted June 6, 2014 at 11:22 am | Permalink

    Regarding your last paragraph, my DH had a very traumatic childhood with an abusive father. He left home at 17 to attend the USNA and lived his life until now coping with it best he could, which was pretty good considering. Last year an incident with his supervisor, who screamed and threatened him, pitched him over the edge. He now is experiencing Complex PTSD (CPTSD), where he is in survival mode and hyper vigilant and basically freaking out. 40 years later. It has taken him right back to his childhood. Thankfully he has a good therapist to work with and is making progress to find some semblance of normal in his life. He doesn’t even know what ‘normal’ is supposed to be, but we’re working on it, all with the Lords help.

    • Headmistress, zookeeper
      Posted June 6, 2014 at 5:03 pm | Permalink

      What heartache! Thanks for sharing that, and thanks for sticking through it and supporting your husband.

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