Pendulum swings- that’s what we do. Churchy people have been addressing immodestly dressed women for, well, as long as I can remember and I have a very long memory and I’m in my fifties.
It’s not that this is entirely a bad thing- it’s perfectly true that immodest dress is an issue that Christian women should care about and the Bible does say that quite clearly. It’s just that we’ve only been addressing one side for most of those 50 years. We don’t fix that by trying to toss all concerns about dressing modestly out the window, as I have seen many do lately.
We do it with good strong admonitions like this one, addressed to men:
We blame women for our struggles with sexual sin. Drawing attention like that sent the message: “Look what she’s doing to me! I am pure, but she tries to make me unclean!”
It’s time for Christian men to stop having immodest reactions to immodesty. Yes, female immodesty is a real thing, the Bible makes that clear. And women have responsibilities when it comes to modesty. But I believe it does you no good to think overmuch on that. After all…
1. Your purity is your responsibility.
Does that mean you can do it on your own? No, but by the grace of Jesus and the power of the Holy Spirit. Nevertheless, we are talking about your house, your responsibility. Why am I emphasizing this? Because too many men blame women for their struggles with lust, even to the point of anger.
There’s more, and it’s really good stuff to teach your sons. When we teach them that lust is something the girls make them do, we, and not those ‘bad’ girls, are actively putting stumbling blocks before them. We are telling them that when they sin, it’s somebody else’s fault. They cannot overcome something if they don’t even think it’s their responsibility.