” It is unfair to your child to assume that someone couldn’t be a pedophile. John the Baptist, as he was baptizing people, said, “Bear fruit in keeping with repentance” (Matthew 3:8, ESV). In other words, prove that you have changed, don’t just say it. Paul, in giving a defense before Roman authorities, tells King Agrippa that he preached the Gospel to Jews and Gentiles, “that they should repent and turn to God, performing deeds in keeping with their repentance” (Acts 26:20, ESV). In other words, Paul didn’t give them the benefit of the doubt. Paul wasn’t so naïve as to think that, just because people claimed that they loved God and were good people, it meant that they really were. He demanded, as John did, that they prove themselves through their actions. Jesus, as he sent the 12 out to preach, warned, “Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves” (Matthew 10:16). In other words, don’t be naïve and think we live in a safe world where all people should be trusted. Remain innocent, but don’t be fooled. So with that in mind, I demand that people prove themselves when they question my boundaries. You want me to believe you are a good person? Don’t violate my boundaries and then we’ll talk!” http://jimmyhinton.org/2013/09/24/boundaries-part-2/#comment-328
” One in four girls and one in six boys is abused by the age of eighteen.
“Pedophiles don’t change.
They cry (they’re very good at it too), they repent but they don’t change. People who are sexually attracted to pre-pubescent children are NOT sinners just like you and me. Yes, we’re all sinners but, the evidence is in after much research… they’re STILL sexually attracted to little children and they will do anything to feed that desire. Their sexual nature is badly-broken and repentance doesn’t change that fact.
Almost all of them re-offend… the average is 100 victims per pedophile.
God has a place for pedophiles who are truly repentant and pledge a life of abstinence and trackable accountability… but, it’s not in your church that’s way, way too dangerous. Any pastor or leader that tells you otherwise is both ignorant and arrogant. A blind guide (Mat 23:16).”
The other comments are worth reading, too. LIke Carmon’s page- she is posting a lot of insightful, useful, albeit hard to read, information about sexual abuse in the church.
See also this terrific article on an organization started by Billy Graham’s grandson- a former prosecutor who now is helping religious organizations work to uncover child abuse and address it properly. Sadly, several of those organizations don’t want the sin in their midst uncovered at all.
“the perp did what perps usually do: cry and ask for forgiveness, so happy he was caught.” The pastor said it sounded like repentance to him…” http://prospect.org/article/next-christian-sex-abuse-scandal
“All too often, he says, a pastor would come to court in a supportive role, almost always sitting on the perpetrator’s side of the aisle, not the victim’s. The Wisconsin case made Tchividjian think back on those pastors. He began to realize that he had a calling of his own: to teach the Protestant church to be part of the solution, instead of part of the problem. “I was encountering survivors who were absolutely eviscerated as a result of disclosing abuse in the Protestant church,” Tchividjian says, “and the long-term damage is sometimes more from how the church responded, or failed to respond, than the abuse itself.” ”
“Offenders who report strong church ties abuse more often, with younger victims. That’s not because Christians are inherently more abusive, he said, but because they’re more vulnerable to those who are. Tchividjian repeated what one convicted sex abuser told clinical psychologist Anna Salter in her book Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists, and Other Sex Offenders: “Church people”—always looking to see the best in people, to welcome converts, to save sinful souls—are “easy to fool.” ”
“The reason why offenders get away with what they do is because we have too many cultures of silence,” Tchividjian said. “When something does surface, all too often the church leadership quiets it down. Because they’re concerned about reputation: ‘This could harm the name of Jesus, so let’s just take care of it internally.’
“Jesus doesn’t need your reputation!” Tchividjian declared. “When somebody says that, it’s a lie. Keeping things in the dark and allowing souls to be destroyed by abuse, that shames the Gospel. Jesus is all about transparency.”