How Public Education Can Groom Our Kids To Accept Abuse

spider to the flyYears ago an acquaintance of mine wanted to homeschool. Her kindergarten aged child was being chased home from school by 5th and 6th grade boys who would pull her pants down. The school said they couldn’t help- it happened off campus. The boys’ parents said boys would be boys. Older women at her church said, “Well, they have to learn to get along in the real world sometime.”

In my real world, people who do this to other people go. to. jail.

Unfortunately, in the school world, that is not a given.

I have listened to some variation on these theme for two decades- parents who include concerns about bullying or the low level of behavior in public schooled children are criticized for being smother mothers, for sheltering, for refusing to equip their kids to deal with the ‘real world,’ because kids have to learn to get along and put up with that kind of stuff some time. I have always found this line of thinking inexpressibly appalling. There’s nothing real world about the microcosm of social interactions in public schools. In the fifth grade I had to run for the bus every day after school for months because ‘D. V.,’ the school bully, was threatening to beat me up. That would not happen in the ‘real’ world. As an adult I have options and coping strategies we deny children in the same situations. I can call the police, I can refuse to put myself in places where the D.V.s of this world are lying in wait, I can defend myself (when I finally fought back, we were both sent to the office, and today we would both have been expelled) and I can hire an attorney to represent me if my self-defense gets me into trouble. Nobody would make you go back to work if one of your co-workers was slapping you or pulling off your clothes every day. Incidentally, I just googled my old nemesis,’D.V. She’s a prison warden. I kid you not.

Here’s the thing I cannot understand- we object, vehemently, when adult women are told to stay put in abusive relationships. We don’t want adult women to stay in places where they are hit, sexually harassed, subjected to verbal and emotional abuse, and we often ask ourselves why a woman stays in a relationship where she is abused. Maybe she learned that in school- where she had to stay in classrooms, on schoolyards and on the bus with those who taunted and abused her. Maybe she learned that when she came home from school in kindergarten in tears, saying she didn’t want to go back because her classmates were mean to her and her parents told her she needed to learn to get along with people like that ‘in the real world,’ but then didn’t give her any of the options available to people in the ‘real world.’  Somehow, we are teaching our kids not to talk to adults (those in authority) about bullying, in spite of our so-called zero tolerance polices on bullying.

So there’s one ingredient in a recipe for destruction- we force children to endure situations and circumstances we would never accept for ourselves. We deliberately train them to expect to be mistreated by their fellow students, and we teach them they have to endure it- they can’t escape.

Updated to add this horrific example of abuse that is part of an ‘anti-bullying’ campaign:

MIDDLE SCHOOL GIRLS FORCED TO ASK CLASSMATES FOR ‘LESBIAN KISS’ DURING ANTI-BULLYING PRESENTATION
Imagine 13 and 14-year-old girls being instructed to ask one another for a lesbian kiss in a class exercise. The girls had no choice. The parents were NOT informed. But hey, if it falls under “anti-bullying,” than who are you to question it, right?

This is abuse. As I have said before, the ‘gay agenda’ is not now and never was seeking tolerance. It was bullying, pure and simple, and the goal was complete capitulation by all who disagree.

The Principal defends the exercise, but acknowledges that they should have better parental notification in place. In reading the article, it’s possible that the goal was role playing how to say no to such an advance. But I submit to you that it is entirely possible to discuss ways to say no without demanding that half the students ask the other half for kisses.

 

Asking the girls to role play the part of somebody asking another girl for a lesbian kiss doesn’t improve the exercise or enhance the ability of the student to say ‘no.’ It begins by over-riding the students’ desires to say no in the first place. This is grooming children to break down their inhibitions and ignore their own consciences, comfort levels, personal boundaries, and desire to say no to somebody in authority who requires them to cross a boundary line of comfort they should not have to cross at all, let alone in a classroom. It is sexual harassment. It does not protect them from abuse. It subjects them to abuse.

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