I’m in the midst of revamping our schedule, not for any particular reason except we’ve finished up several school books and it’s time to rotate in some new books and a fresh routine because otherwise I get stale and bored. We’ve also had several weeks of off and on schooling and mostly off housework as we had holidays, out of state company, some sickness, and that lovely new grand-baby, so this means we don’t really have a daily schedule anymore, and we have a lot of catching up to do. The house, honestly, is downright foul at the moment.
And…. I only have two scholars these days, plus the Cherub, unless the Little Boys are visiting. They’ve been kind of hit and miss lately, too, due to some scheduling conflicts plus a need to be firm with their mom about her responsibility for getting them here (our agreement is she brings them, we drop them off, but she’s not been sticking to that, or she says she’ll be here at such and such a time and 8 hours later still isn’t here).
The truth is that while I give my kids a list of schoolbooks to read and a rough outline of how much to complete each week, I really don’t have any such animal as a daily schedule and what I actually do with my days is so embarrassingly easy most of the time that I don’t want to share it. Bon Bons and breakfast in bed may or may not be involved.
You can do this when your Progeny are all stronger and more capable than you, which is how we raised them to be.
Pip is 22 and still lives at home while going to college and working part-time. Jenny is 23 and still lives at home while working full-time reupholstering aircraft seats.
The Cherub is 25.
The youngest two are 14 and 16.
Breakfast is mostly self-serve except for The Cherub, although sometimes I make this crockpot breakfast the night before. We have no official getting up time, although after a few ridiculous incidents last week I have informed the Boy that if he’s not up by 9 a.m. he gets to mop a floor. We also do not have a bedtime, except the Cherub should be tucked in between 8 and 9. The rest of us stay up as late as we like.
Every Sunday night, unless I’ve done it in some other niche of time, I make the list of ground to cover for the week for my teens. That schedule begins with reading Proverbs, one chapter a day, and keeping a running list of the marks of a fool vs the marks of the wise.
The reading assignments are based on AmblesideOnline, with some of our own books added in or substituted as the need may be. Probably 75% of the readings are independent. I leave some things to do with Me for two reasons- one of my children still in school struggles more with complex reading than the other, and I want the bonding time we get from reading the texts together. I also reserve some of the books that I just want to talk about with my kids for our read alouds. I guess that was three reasons.
They do some independent school work interspersed with chores, then we do school together, then they do more independent school topics. Our schedule does not keep our house clean because we have developed the unlawful habit of scattering- that is, we put things down instead of away, and we are oblivious to those things as we walk through the house.
Pip, the FYG and the FYB take turns fixing lunch- often leftovers these days (last year we made it from scratch a lot).
Supper- freezer meals. During Pip’s breaks from school I make a menu plan, they shop, and we make freezer meals to fill the freezer until her next school break.
The Cherub at 25 functions at the level of a slow 2 year old, however, this does not mean she requires the same supervision and monitoring a 2 year old does. She doesn’t like to do much of anything but eat, tear books, and color on things she should not color on. Also included in the school schedules are things for her younger siblings to do with her- while they do copywork, they give her paper and crayons. When they are reading, they give her board books or catalogs to look at. When we do hymns and folksongs, she is encouraged to join in.
Our schedule isn’t rigid and we may break it for any reason at any time. Sometimes, as a friend of mine put it, we just skip and go naked. No, that doesn’t mean we are nudists, it means we don’t wear our schedule. We are free spirits with a rhythm to our days.
These are some resources that helped me figure out that rhythm:
A Mother’s Rule of Life: How to Bring Order to Your Home and Peace to Your Soul
Managers Of Their Homes: A Practical Guide To Daily Scheduling For Christian Home-School Families
I actually discarded more than I used from this book, but what I used was invaluable to me.
Reading and editing Benedict’s Rule of Order for myself.
The rhythm of our days was a lot more syncopated when we had five under 9 and 3 of them were in diapers, or when the youngest two were in full Berserker mode, but I’ve paid my dues.
Here’s a sample schedule from a few years back.
Because there is no perfect schedule, the schedule is always Plan B.
Visit the other Four Moms and see what they have to say!
Raising Olives, married 15 years, mama to 11, homeschooling graduate herself-
Connie at Smockity Frocks, married 25 years, mom to 8. We were blog buddies for a year or two before we realized that we had very dear mutual friends in real life. How cool is that?!
Kim at Life in a Shoe, homeschool grad, mama to a family of 13
Me, DeputyHeadmistress and former Zookeeper (I gave up keeping a zoo when coyotes and coons killed our chickens) of this blog, The Common Room and our cooking blog, The Common Kitchen; married 30 years, mom to seven plus unofficial foster mom to two little boys, Mama-in-Law to two, and Grandmama to four blessings under 3, with number 5 on the way, and yes we are very proud.=)
We four moms also wrote a book together, and you can buy the Four Moms parenting book, which you can get as a Kindle or as an e-book document:
See my other Kindle books, too:
101 Answers to the Summertime, “Mom, I’m Bored” Blues; help your kids use their free time creatively and productively. Give them ideas that will help them use their time and energy to create, to learn, to grow- to contribute. This is not your average ‘keep the kids out of your hair’ book.
Required Poems for Reading and Memorizing (annotated); Charming collection of older poems that you and the kids just might love.
Ten Low-Carb Snacks and Quick Meals Okay, actually, there’s a little more than ten, and they aren’t merely low-carb, they are also sugar-free, grain-free, gluten free. NOT dairy-free.