What girls need to know
Physical intimacy is intoxicating like alcohol. It will cloud your judgment, inhibit critical thinking, and make you do things that later you may regret. And the consequences for girls are usually more devastating than for boys.
Physical intimacy carries profound emotional feelings with it for girls, but boys DO NOT feel this. They are more detached from emotions than you are.
Physical intimacy is exactly that- a physical thing for boys, and they will usually be embarrassed and uncomfortable and will leave once they have achieved their goal for physical contact with you- even if they think they won’t.
Boys have little problem being physically intimate with a girl and then forgetting about her and her feelings.
Boys attach little meaning to physical intimacy other than the physical pleasure of it.
Boys are very likely to see you simply as a physical object for their gratification. They will be generally clueless and careless about your feelings, although sometimes they will be able to convince you otherwise, because under the intoxicating effects of physical intimacy, they will be desperate to tell you what you want to hear.
Boys and girls usually don’t really have a true and clear sense of themselves in their teens. While still a teen you are more likely to misjudge the intentions of boys and what you really need or want.
Boys do not have the maturity to handle the consequences of physical intimacy. Wait until you are able to handle the intoxicating feelings of intimacy before getting into compromising situations (and of course, for us that means waiting for marriage).
Boys, even good ones whose judgment is clouded, will take advantage of you if you pass out at a party.
Boys will never care about you more just because you give them physical intimacy. They are more likely to stop thinking about you once you’ve given in.
There are plenty of boys, especially handsome and seemingly nice ones who will lie to you to gain your trust and your purity.
Older men can also be just like boys.
Girls do not always understand how intoxicating the mere thought of physical contact can be to a boy, and they think flirting is just fun. But be careful. Not only is this genuinely unkind to nice boys, but you will sooner or later run into one who will be insecure enough to get violent when you tease. You can provoke violence when you tease- this doesn’t make the violence ‘your fault’ but the fact that there are insecure boys out there does mean you want to be careful.
Violence and jealousy are not signs of how much a boy loves you. They are signs of how much he loves himself and how little he respects you.